Today’s Guest Post comes from the hilarious Yocelyn Riojas over at My Chinese Boyfriend. Her blog always gives me a good laugh and she decided to write about the benefits of an intercultural relationship.
1. Pick Up A New Language
You learn to pick up words, phrases, and new ways to express your love in another language. It also helps to overcome that awkward language barrier when you first meet your partner’s parents.
2. Develop A Stomach Of Steel
Your taste palette will expand when you try eating your partner’s native dishes. It will take some time for your stomach to adjust. Might get a stomach-ache or make a few runs for the toilet. However, after eating so many strange things you’ll learn not question it anymore and learn which dishes are your favorites.
3. Learn Conflict Resolution
Many people don’t realize that culturally we all express our anger differently. Whether you are yelling or giving the silent treatment it can get frustrating learning how to deal with partner. You learn to be patient with each other and develop new ways to resolve conflict.
4. Travel To New Places
You get the opportunity visit each other’s countries/hometowns with your own personal tour guide. Also, you get the chance to experience each other’s culture from a native point of view rather than as a tourist.
5. You Get To Root for Two Teams
Once the Olympics or the FIFA World Cup comes around you get to root for two teams. You root for each other’s country as if it is your own.
6. Get Twice The Holidays
You get twice the holidays and twice the fun. You get the chance to learn more about each other’s cultures and traditions. Even if you don’t understand what is going on you’re just happy to be with your partner.
7. Get Told You Will Have Beautiful Mixed Babies
People will compliment how beautiful your future mixed babies will be. They will sometimes bring up questions about how you will raise them or where will you live. You would think they would wait till you actually had a baby.
8. Joke About Each Other’s Stereotypes
You feel comfortable joking around and picking at each other’s stereotypes. You face them everyday so why not make fun of them? These jokes stay between the two of you. When someone else tries to make fun of you it’s not funny.
9. Incorporate New Habits
You naturally pick up on each other’s habits. Maybe you started to leave your shoes by the doorway, use chopsticks as a whisk, or curse the way your partner does. There will be days when you wonder why, out of everything, did you have to pick up that one bad habit of theirs.
10. Get The Stink Eye, But Who Cares?
Not everyone is going to be supportive or accepting of your relationship. Opinions are like butt holes. Everyone has one, but you don’t let it get in the way of your happiness. Together you’ll face obstacles that will only strengthen your relationship. Meanwhile, you have fun being in love, Tell the haters “It’s just mind over matter. I don’t mind, you don’t matter.”
Yocelyn Riojas is a Mexican American part-time blogger, comic artist, photographer, and graphic designer who is always looking for her next creation. For the past five years she has been in an intercultural relationship with Chinese boyfriend Tony. Described as her muse, she enjoys writing and illustrating about her daily struggles being in a cross cultural relationship. You can follow her blog on www.MyChineseBoyfriend.com.