This week’s guest post comes from fellow YouTuber, Mesmi. She’s a Mexican-American girl vlogging about life and love in Korea. I asked her to share her story and she happily agreed. Thanks, Mesmi, and without further adieu, she presents her story on how she found the man of her dreams in a country far, far, away from her own.
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Like most twenty year olds, I wasn’t sure what to do with my life after graduating university. I felt absolutely lost. I landed a Library assistant job at an elementary school in Texas and I absolutely hated it. I felt depressed and found myself in a stupid and unnecessary relationship out of loneliness.
Six months into my library job, I quit, and prepared to teach English in Korea. I’d been gathering all my paperwork for Korea and kept in contact with my old housemate who recommended I work at a private institution he used to work at. He said many good things, so without thinking, I grabbed the first job I was offered. I thought teaching kindergarten kids would be the best job ever. I was actually wrong! (I’ll talk about this another time.)
Before I left, my parents strongly suggested I attend a Catholic Church retreat to mentally prepare myself and let of all my worries go. I was very against it, but reluctantly attended not knowing what I would be doing there. At that retreat, I met a young girl who was very interested in Korean culture and we kept in touch. My first night in Korea, she messaged me about a pen-pal who was going to be an English teacher. She asked if I could meet him and give some advice. Because I was very culture shocked, I didn’t really want to, but I agreed for my friend. When I met the young man, I was not interested in even being friends with him because of how opposite he was from me. He was the quiet and reserved type, while I was the loud and talkative type. The one thing that caught my eye was that he was very respectful and he didn’t have bad intentions toward me.
I caught myself messaging him and meeting him many times a week during my busy work schedule. We grew very close in just a few meetings. I was actually not looking into getting into a relationship with anyone because I didn’t trust any man.
We soon grew comfortable and became very silly with each other. I didn’t think he could be silly because I thought he was a strict Christian guy of little words. I can still remember him running after my subway as I was leaving and waving goodbye to me. At that moment, I started feeling butterflies in my stomach.
I would tell you all the confession story, but he’s very embarrassed about it because it’s very humorous. Though it seems kind of fast, we still took our time to get to know each other.
Doubts started popping up one by one when I started to feel stressed out about dating him. I knew his parents were very traditional and might disapprove of our relationship. For about three months, he hid me from his parents, but after his mom saw his couple ring, he wasn’t scared to tell her he had a Mexican-American girlfriend.
His father, who is a pastor, seemed to be very accepting of it, but it took his mother just a little more time to adjust. Seven months into dating, I met his family in person for the first time and cooked Mexican food for them on Christmas day. I now attend their church regularly and his father always greets me happily with a hand shake. His grandmother is the cutest and sweetest lady!
My boyfriend’s brother has always supported us and he is one of the reasons his mother opened up. She has warmed up to me as the days go by and she takes care of me when I visit their home for dinner. I won’t lie when I tell you I’m terrified with their reaction when we tell them we want to marry within the next year or so.
If some of you have seen us on YouTube, the way we behave in our videos is how we really act. We are complete dorks and like to tease each other like best friends. We aren’t perfect, but we communicate how we feel and it has helped break many barriers. Sometimes I get comments from many people saying this won’t work because of cultural differences, and it does hurt to see that they don’t know our story.
This man has seen me at my worst and has picked me back up. He’s helped me change for the better. I’m a little chili pepper and he’s the calm one with just one smile, I forget all my worries. He’s the one who sat next to me in the hospital with an illness that almost killed me. He’s prayed for me, my family, and has been the greatest friend anyone could ever ask for. He is my best friend and I know we are going to have a great life together. Follow us on my YouTube channel or Instagram page! If you are in Korea, come hang out with us!
Mesmi is a vlogger from Texas who teaches English in Korea. Follow the awesome adventures on YouTube and be sure to subscribe for some fun videos.You can follow her on Instagram and Facebook to keep updated on life and love in Korea.